So as you can see, my son has a lovely set of eight teeth. Eight tiny, pearly white, eagerly awaited, razor sharp teeth.
As you can also see, he has developed a penchant for biting me!
If I ask for a kiss, he comes steaming towards me, mouth wide open, and starts trying to clamp my mouth between his teeth. Or if he is in a particularly boisterous mood, he will merrily bash against me with his head and start trying to gnaw away at my leg or tummy, or arm.
It was something I wasn’t expecting until he was a little older, maybe at pre-school where you hear stories of that kid who bites! At 13 months old, I got a little bit worried that the little guy was doing something he shouldn’t have been…I pretty quickly discovered it was totally normal…
So what should I do about it? I am pretty sure my current approach, giggling madly, giving a puny yelp of an ouch, and laughing some more as he goes in for a second bite may not be the conventional route! And saying ”no” is something I talked about trying not to do (check it out here).
I never knew, but each bite is just an expression of his excitement, his love, his enthusiasm and his energy in life. There is no way I am going to bite him back like someone recommended a friend try doing with her son.
Why do toddlers bite?
A bite is a way of expressing something without words, be it happiness, excitement, joy, or anger, frustration or hurt.
It could also be down to the usual suspects…teething, tiredness, boredom or just plain old experimentation.
How to react when your toddler bites you.
Stay calm! Try not to laugh! Use the serious voice to say something like ‘bites hurt, ouch’ and use it consistently.
Shift the focus to a different activity, not biting mum fun time…a distraction is invaluable.
Understand why your toddler is biting.
If you can figure out what your little person is trying to tell you with a bite, it might go some way to calming the situation down. If they could be teething, bring the teething toys out. If they are over tired, try and get a nap in or nap earlier for the future. If they are in need of more activity, try and give more time to entertaining them.
Each scenario has an obvious solution, but especially if your toddler is older it may be harder to deal with the situation. Zerotothree.org has some great advice here to help you deal with your situation.
So what age did your child start to bite? Or did they never go through this phase at all. How did you handle it? Would love to hear your thoughts…
I only hope my boob isn’t the next victim!!!
- Ouch! Why you little….!!!!!! (charlieandpearl.wordpress.com)
- My child bites! (navywife3daughters.com)
- Skin to skin, more than just cute cuddles. (wildandwisdom.com)